I just don't know how to cope!

How often have I heard those words!

Almost every mother with whom I have had contact (including myself) has had moments when things seem to get on top of you. You know the sorts of things that provide the trigger - you're trying to enjoy looking after baby but other things intrude - the washing machine breaks down, the older children want more attention, your partner's flat out with work and can't give the support you need, there's some issue in your wider family, and so on. They all add up and then comes breaking point - usually something very insignificant - but it tips you over the edge. Frustration, tears, anger, feelings of inadequacy - they all come out.

Most mums get over this pretty quickly. The tears bring relief and a supportive partner, friend, or extended family member helps. But for others its the start (or continuation) of a downward spiral. Baby blues are imminent and, in some cases, post natal depression is on the way. Its easy to feel alone and helpless.

This is what lay behind a discussion I had last year with a friend, Carolyn Jackson. We decided to start Mothers 4 Mothers - a support service provided by experienced mums to new mums (http://www.m-for-m.com.au/) to help new mothers gain confidence and competence in those first few, crucial weeks or months.

We have been astounded by the response. Mothers from all over Australia and New Zealand have contacted us offering to help - most of them lamenting the fact that the service wasn't available when they were new Mums.

My point is this. Don't give up. There is help available. Being "in the dumps" isn't the end of everything. You can do it! And there's help available from lots of people who understand how you feel and who know how to help you.

More information about Angela Long and how I may be able to help you at http://www.angelalong.com.au/